I find it funny and in a way a little annoying when people talk about how I am the breadwinner with a foreigner husband because normally, it’s the foreigner that spends money for their Filipina wife. Some goes even to the extent of saying I should leave him because of that. Tsk
Funny because it’s 2025. And people’s mindset are still so backwards.
Annoying because it’s disrespectful to what he has gone through. He did not choose to be where he is right now.
Early on this marriage, I learned so much and have grown so much to understand the true meaning of marriage— it’s through thick and thin, highs and lows, sickness and health. And to me, this was learned not just as a concept but a reality to face. It was more than the vows we said on our wedding day but the every single day we wake up to. Marriage is work. And love is an verb, an action you choose everyday.
I thought of it, and probably this is a question I should ask the people who have those thoughts— say Steve wasn’t white, and you were in my shoes (or regardless of his race), wouldn’t you do the same? Isn’t it our duty to be there for our partners? Kung magsakit ang mga asawa ninyo, would you think of leaving them because they cannot support you anymore? That mindset is just not only backwards. It is sick and most of all, CRUEL.
Think of it, if kamo asawa. And you’re the one on his shoes. If kamo ang nagkasakit, how would you feel if someone leave you behind kay may sakit kamo. Kay balik-balik kamo sa hospital. It’s easy to talk without thinking. But think of it again.
After all, I never married Steve for money. And above all, I have been blessed beyond measure to be able to support us. Wala ko nangutang to pay his hospital bills. God blessed me more than enough to be able to pay every single bill we have. So, I have nothing to complain about. My GOD is a good God. And his provision always come on time and more than enough. I have a very supportive family who has my back and really grateful for the love and support nga ginapakita nila.
There are maybe times nga kapoy gid. And I might express it because it just feels good to release it especially nga layo ko sa pamilya. The only way I could best express it is through social media. Sometimes I write long notes in my notebook. It’s human to feel tired and exhausted. But I have a good God who renews my strength daily. My strength is from the Lord gid.
All I am saying is… instead of sending me negative thoughts, why don’t you pray for me and Steve? Keep your toxic thoughts to yourself.
P.S.
Also grateful and want to thank all of the people who showed us love and grace in this really tough times. Those who have shielded us from people who mean harm. And most especially those who hold our hands.
